About Us

Mission & Vision

To promote better marriages by providing enrichment opportunities and resources to strengthen couple relationships, increase intimacy, and enhance personal growth, mutual fulfillment, and family wellness.

To create a network of couples building healthy marriages by providing marriage education and enrichment opportunities in partnership with other public, private, and faith-based organizations.

Companionship Marriage – What is it?

Over time, our ideas about what marriage means have changed. Gone are the days when marriage was an economic transaction. Increasingly gone are the days when the husband ruled the house. Many of us these days have a “companionship” marriage: a long-term, intimate relationship between equals. We look for happiness, growth, and fulfillment in our marriages, not just stability.

Unfortunately, trying to grow and develop a marriage can sometimes feel lonely. Media images of marriage are often unrealistic. We are bombarded with too-easy, pop psychology marriage “quick fixes” on one side and statistics about modern divorce rates on the other. We rarely have the opportunity to see how other marriages really work; our parents’ marriage is often the only clear example we have.

Achieving happiness, growth, and fulfillment requires us to actively develop our relationship and ourselves. Both new and long-standing relationships can grow and be strengthened in a variety of ways. Better Marriages’ mission is “to promote better marriages by providing enrichment opportunities and resources to strengthen couple relationships, increase intimacy, and enhance personal growth, mutual fulfillment, and family wellness”. Better Marriages activities are specifically designed to

  • build a network of support for marriage growth;
  • promote a more realistic view of healthy companionship marriage, both its beauty and its challenges;
  • develop skills in a variety of areas such as communication and creative use of conflict;
  • provide opportunities to regularly explore feelings and events that impact our relationships; and
  • allow couples to see how others’ relationships work.

Features

Does Better Marriages have a model of marriage enrichment?
Rather than referring to a Better Marriages model, it might be more accurate to say that there is a Better Marriages style or that there are distinctive features which are promoted in leadership training and which characterize Better Marriages enrichment activities. They are:

Experiential Learning
Couples use their own experience for learning and the focus of any enrichment event is each couple’s own marriage..

Group Process
Couples can help couples. Within a small group, couples can find an environment of safety, trust, and community. We learn quickly that “we are not in this boat alone.”

Couple Dialogue
Couples talking to each other about their relationship is central to Better Marriage’s approach to marriage enrichment. Dialogue between couples may occur privately or publicly.

Couple Leadership
Leader couples, married to each other, who are willing to share from their own marriage experience provide models, establish the climate of safety, openness, support, and sharing within the group.

Positive Growth
Focus Enrichment is based on the assumption that each couple has strengths on which to build. Couples will develop growth plans which include specific actions by each partner to achieve goals for your marriage.

Non-sectarian
Better Marriages as an organization is not affiliated with or restricted to a particular religious group.